There are some people, whom are so psychologically wounded, or otherwise unwell, you could not possibly matter to the degree of their pain. They live in a world constructed by the effects of trauma, insecurities, and lack of true self awareness. In this world it is acceptable to treat people in ways that manifest the same emotional chaos they feel.
This is why, out of a subconscious fear of ego death, they will gaslight you and push their subjective reality with no regard for how it affects you. This is also why relationships with them are very, very challenging and intense. The intensity fuels and validates them. And why it tends to not work out if you are someone who can see through the facade they've built. Your own self awareness, openness, desire to connect full heartedly, etc., threaten their reality, and they have become quite skillful at avoiding deeply self-reflective situations out of self preservation.
Although they are consciously aware of their behavior, the drive behind it is unconscious. Even if you can see it clearly, they will never accept your perspective and will do everything in their power to rationalize shitty behavior in order to stabilize their mental disturbance and reinforce their subjective reality. They instead treat you as if you are invalid, completely ignoring that you, too, are a human with pain and struggles. But yours are not as big as theirs, so that's that.
These people are stunted from evolving into the miraculous Beings they are, under the bullshit. Only they can heal the monsters that live in their head. These people deserve compassion because they will be suffering the most during the current and upcoming social crises. Unfortunately, they may not get it from a a loved who has already attempted to guide them towards the light because they've cut them out of their lives. Oh, the irony. But these people do not understand boundaries or how to healthfully apply them.
Healers out in the world, if you recognize someone like this, they need your awareness, kindness, patience, and your willingness to guide them beyond the superficial knowledge of their own Being. If you've been hurt by someone like this, pray for them, clear you heart and mind of any resentment. Forgive and free both of you from the chains of their trauma. Carry on with an open heart and a powerful lesson learned.
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